• Buddhist Psychology,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Mindfulness & Meditation,  Self-Love

    What If You Could See Yourself through the Eyes of Love?

    What if you could see yourself through the eyes of Love? Of pure radiance, of bliss that shines so bright it blinds you. What if you held yourself in that gaze, rather than that of the mind, of ego, of limitation and negativity and at times, even disgust? If you could see yourself through the eyes of Love, how would your life change? What would you do differently? You would pursue every one of your heart’s desires, because Love would encourage you, support you, tell you that you are capable and worthy and brilliant. Love would whisper that there is nothing to fear and that everything in this world was…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Self-Love

    Letter to A Newborn

    Dear Sweet, Beautiful Little Darling, Hello! Welcome to this world. You are a ray of sunshine transmitted into a human body. With a human mind and human thoughts and human feelings. Without these forms, this matter of mind and body, you – Little Ray of Light – could not exist on this earth. So here you are, and your journey begins. I’m writing this letter to you to help you along your way…let it comfort you in times of darkness and add sparks to your celebration when all is well. Some important instructions: There will be pain, Little Love. Sometimes small and dull and fleeting, and at other times, acute…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Mindfulness & Meditation

    Live Your One Wild and Precious Life

    In her poem “The Summer Day“, Mary Oliver asks the question: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” Wild and precious. That life is…and it’s also messy and complicated and imperfect and heartbreakingly beautiful. The problem is, our minds get in the way. Our minds are a skewed and clouded lens, fogged by our past experiences, memories and all the stories we’ve created around who we are – our identities as human beings in this world, with our likes and dislikes, fears and hopes and notions about our capabilities and limitations. Our minds hold core beliefs about how loveable or worthy…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health,  Self-Love

    Self-Love: Having the Courage to Accept All of You

    Let’s get real. Let’s own our human experience – not just the shiny, glittery parts of it, or the aspects that we (or others) deem to be “positive” or “good” or brag-worthy. Not just the flattering photos on Facebook or Instagram, the snapshots and brief words that make our lives appear easy and perfect (whatever that means) and care-free. Let’s be honest about ALL of it – the parts that are happy and joyful, of course, but also the moments in which we’re at our lowest. The times when we act from fear, when we’re small and selfish and suffering. The experiences in which we fail to act from our…

  • Buddhist Psychotherapy,  Coping Skills,  Depression,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Mindfulness & Meditation

    Depression 101: How the Mind Creates Suffering

    The Buddha said many things on our minds and thinking, including “rule your mind or it will rule you” and “nothing can harm you as much as your own thoughts unguarded.” He taught that all suffering stems from the mind and that through practices such as mindfulness, meditation and yoga, we can learn to relate differently to our thoughts (also known in Buddhism as “ego”) and in doing so, find freedom from suffering. Much of what I do in my practice centers around these concepts. Clients come to see me with a variety of mental health challenges – including depression and anxiety, stress and grief, even relationship issues or problems…

  • Buddhist Psychotherapy,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Self-Love

    What Is Holistic Psychotherapy?

      The dictionary defines holistic as “characterized by comprehension of the parts of something as intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole”. When referring to holistic medicine, the definition is as follows: “characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the physical symptoms of a disease.” So a holistic perspective on psychology and psychotherapy perceives suffering and problems of the mind as intimately interconnected to your body. Meaning the state of your mind is influenced by the state of your physical body, and vice versa. Anyone who has eaten too much sugar or struggled with a sleepless…

  • Anxiety,  Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being

    Anxiety, Fear & Buddhism

    So many of us live our lives in fear. We’re afraid of failure, of being vulnerable (and risking rejection), afraid of not fitting in, of messing up, of letting ourselves and others down. We’re afraid to stay stuck and just as afraid to get well; afraid of depression and equally afraid of happiness; we fear pain and distress, ridicule and blame and we even fear our own thoughts and feelings! From a Buddhist perspective, fear is at the root suffering. The Buddha taught that all beings feel a deep sense of fear or anxiety, which stems from the fact that we resist the impermanence of our existence. Partly because of…

  • Buddhist Psychotherapy,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health,  Self-Love

    The Secrets I Know…

      As a therapist, I have the honor of becoming someone’s “secret holder”. I get to peek into other people’s minds and hearts and I am always so humbled by this offering. Each client gives me the gift of witnessing Truth – of seeing the human condition in its purest, most raw form. My clients are brave warriors who have the courage to be vulnerable, to get real with themselves and with me. And through my work, I have the privilege of knowing something so real and so true and so comforting: that we are all the same. I get to hear the same stories and struggles, the same fears…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Mindfulness & Meditation,  Stress

    Acceptance, Non-Attachment & Surrender: How Buddhist Principles Decrease Stress

    I recently watched an episode of “Portlandia” in which Fred and Carrie, discussing all of the political/environmental/social justice issues one can be concerned about, decide to just “give up”. While the video is obviously a spoof and meant to be tongue-in-cheek, as a Buddhist psychotherapist, I couldn’t agree more with their plea to unburden their minds and let it all go! Since Trump became President, I have had numerous clients come to see me for psychological distress (anxiety, rage, etc.) caused by our current political reality. And while I would never tell any of them to just “give up” caring about the topics and issues that interest them, I do…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health,  Mindfulness & Meditation

    Anger Management 101

    One of the most uncomfortable emotions for so many of us is anger. According to Buddhist Psychologist Tara Brach, anger can be viewed as a “wise discriminator“. As with all feelings, anger is an indicator – it lets us know that we need to protect ourselves from a possible threat. The problem is, anger is one of the most visceral emotions, and one of the emotions that we find ourselves most “hooked by”. Our minds get caught on our anger, and we often find ourselves being highly reactive when angry, losing our ability to stay calm and mindful and present. We mindlessly lash out, saying or doing things we later…