• Anxiety,  Depression,  Men's Mental Health,  Stress

    Buddhism, Addiction & the Myth of Disempowerment

    Addiction can be viewed in various ways – from a psychological vs. physiological perspective, to the debate between whether or not there is a biological basis for addiction. Through my training, clinical experience and the lens of Buddhist psychology, addiction is not a matter of biology. It’s not some flaw in your design, some genetic mistake that predisposes you to a life of struggle and suffering. Rather, addiction is as incredibly simple (and insanely complex) as the brain’s inherent inclination toward pleasure and away from pain. I believe that as a society, we suffer from an epidemic of addiction. When I say “addiction”, I’m not referring to the most extreme…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health

    Self-Love: Having the Courage to Accept All of You

    Let’s get real. Let’s own our human experience – not just the shiny, glittery parts of it, or the aspects that we (or others) deem to be “positive” or “good” or brag-worthy. Not just the flattering photos on Facebook or Instagram, the snapshots and brief words that make our lives appear easy and perfect (whatever that means) and care-free. Let’s be honest about ALL of it – the parts that are happy and joyful, of course, but also the moments in which we’re at our lowest. The times when we act from fear, when we’re small and selfish and suffering. The experiences in which we fail to act from our…

  • Buddhist Psychotherapy,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health,  Self-Love

    The Secrets I Know…

      As a therapist, I have the honor of becoming someone’s “secret holder”. I get to peek into other people’s minds and hearts and I am always so humbled by this offering. Each client gives me the gift of witnessing Truth – of seeing the human condition in its purest, most raw form. My clients are brave warriors who have the courage to be vulnerable, to get real with themselves and with me. And through my work, I have the privilege of knowing something so real and so true and so comforting: that we are all the same. I get to hear the same stories and struggles, the same fears…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health,  Mindfulness & Meditation

    Anger Management 101

    One of the most uncomfortable emotions for so many of us is anger. According to Buddhist Psychologist Tara Brach, anger can be viewed as a “wise discriminator“. As with all feelings, anger is an indicator – it lets us know that we need to protect ourselves from a possible threat. The problem is, anger is one of the most visceral emotions, and one of the emotions that we find ourselves most “hooked by”. Our minds get caught on our anger, and we often find ourselves being highly reactive when angry, losing our ability to stay calm and mindful and present. We mindlessly lash out, saying or doing things we later…

  • Happiness & Well-Being,  Men's Mental Health

    Men, Masculinity & Mental Health

    For quite some time now, I’ve been extremely interested in the intersection between gender (which is a social construct) and mental health. My interest initially related to women’s mental health – issues such as pregnancy-related mood disorders, premenstrual dysphoric disorder (finally added to the DSM as an official diagnosis just this past edition!) and the stress that so many women in our society feel as they juggle multiple roles of wife, mother, friend, daughter/sibling and professional. In the last few years, however, my interest switched to men’s mental health. Seeing so many women burn out being both mothers and professionals, I began to wonder where the men were in this…

  • ADD/ADHD,  Men's Mental Health

    ADD, ADHD and Mindfulness

    Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) are common disorders affecting both children and adults. Primary features of ADD include inattention, distractibility and poor working memory while ADHD includes additional symptoms of hyperactivity and impulsivity. ADD/ADHD affects all aspects of one’s life, and includes behaviors such as forgetting or losing items, making careless mistakes, difficulty with follow-through and organization and inability to sustain attention. According to Healthline, in the past decade, ADHD diagnoses have increased by 42%. As such, effective treatment has become even more important, and fortunately, Buddhist psychotherapy provides excellent support. The Buddha said “Rule your mind or it will rule you”. ADD/ADHD is a prime…