• Anxiety,  Depression,  Relationships

    Happiness

    What do you need to be happy? I mean really need? Where does your happiness live? Does it live in your bank account? Do you find it in the comforts of a paycheck, a job title or a dollar sign? If you need those things to be happy, then what happens when they change, as all things do? Is happiness something you find in a number on your scale, or on a tag on the back of your pants? Is it a size, a weight, a certain way that your body looks? What happens when you age, when your body swells with the magic of pregnancy? Where does your happiness…

  • Relationships

    How Buddhist Psychology Can Help You Navigate A New Relationship

    The excitement, hope and sense of possibility that accompanies a new romantic relationship can be intoxicating. When we meet someone with whom we deeply connect we feel butterflies and excitement. We feel like we’re floating on a cloud and we experience bliss and euphoria…and then the mind kicks in. With all of its questions and fears and desire to control. With the attachment to outcome and “what if’s”, the catastrophizing and mind-reading and before we know it, we’ve driven ourselves absolutely insane. So what does Buddhism have to say about all of this? How can we apply principles from Buddhist psychology and yoga to help us navigate the beginning stages…

  • Relationships

    Being Alone Without Being Lonely: How Buddhism Helps Us Come Home to Our Selves

    A lot of us struggle with being single. Whether you’re single by choice or going through a divorce or break-up, the ego has a field day when we’re not coupled. This time is often very fertile ground for our mind’s greatest fears and negative self-talk to plant seeds. The ego tells us stories about how we’re broken, unworthy and unloveable. Our minds run wild with tales of being a social outcast, never finding a romantic partner and then eventually dying alone. The result of all this mind chatter? Debilitating loneliness. Loneliness so vast and unbearable that we literally want to jump out of our skin to get away from it.…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Relationships,  Stress

    The Stress of Change & Life Transitions: How Buddhist Psychology Can Help

    Many of the harder aspects of life relate to change. Whether you’re undergoing a life transition such as being a newlywed, new parent or new employee, or trying to adopt a new habit, change is something we all struggle with (even when it’s a “positive” change!). Why? Human beings are creatures of habit; recent research on the psychology of change demonstrates that people have a clear and reliable preference for things that have been around longer. Simply put: whether we’re happy in a certain situation or not (ie, a relationship or a career), we believe that longevity implies “good” and that any change (which is always unknown) is “bad”. But why…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Relationships

    Do You Need to Be More Assertive In Your Relationship?

    Many clients come to therapy because they are struggling with issues in their relationship. None of us are taught how to be in an intimate partnership with another person; our main and sometimes only example is our parents’ relationships, and whatever they chose to model for us becomes imprinted on our minds and hearts, serving as the blueprint for our future relationships. Unfortunately, for so many of us, communication in general – and being assertive more specifically – is a challenge. We have a hard time speaking up for ourselves, especially when it comes to asking for what we need. Why is this so? And what is the response to this issue…

  • Happiness & Well-Being,  Relationships

    Communication & Mental Health

    Communication is an issue that comes up often in therapy, and in many contexts. For some, communication is a struggle in terms of their marriage or romantic relationship; for others, the struggle to effectively communicate – especially in terms of boundaries, wants and needs – presents itself at the workplace, among friends or with relatives. So what’s the big deal about communication? Why do so many of us struggle to effectively communicate? And how does communication – or lack thereof – influence our mental health and well-being? Our ability to communicate what we want and need is intricately tied to our sense of self-worth and self-love, and is also related…

  • Relationships,  Uncategorized

    Relationships, Marriage & Couples Counseling

    One of the most common reasons people seek therapy is problems in their relationship. From communication issues and conflict management to intimacy, sex and fidelity concerns, relationships are filled with opportunities for self-growth. And this, from the perspective of Buddhist psychology, is the key to it all: wanting to grow and evolve into your highest self. Relationships trigger the deepest issues in all of us, touching on problems and patterns we first experienced as young children. Issues with attachment, codependency and autonomy seem to abound, with so many of us trying to navigate the waters of long-term monogamy or marriage. The Buddha said “You yourself, as much as anybody in…