• Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Mindfulness & Meditation

    Boredom & Buddhist Psychology: Learning to Stay with Our Experience

    We live in a society that is pretty obsessed with doing. We attach value to being busy, and most of us live in a constant state of activity, always working, distracting and interacting. We believe that a person’s worth stems from tangible achievements, accolades and outcomes – only by achieving a certain title, degree or salary are we deserving of love. Rarely do we make time to simply BE: to sit in silence and stillness, remaining present with our internal experience. Maybe we fear our own thoughts and feelings, afraid of what will arise if we actually stop all the busyness and just pause. For many of us, we simply…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Coping Skills,  Happiness & Well-Being,  Relationships,  Stress

    The Stress of Change & Life Transitions: How Buddhist Psychology Can Help

    Many of the harder aspects of life relate to change. Whether you’re undergoing a life transition such as being a newlywed, new parent or new employee, or trying to adopt a new habit, change is something we all struggle with (even when it’s a “positive” change!). Why? Human beings are creatures of habit; recent research on the psychology of change demonstrates that people have a clear and reliable preference for things that have been around longer. Simply put: whether we’re happy in a certain situation or not (ie, a relationship or a career), we believe that longevity implies “good” and that any change (which is always unknown) is “bad”. But why…

  • Buddhist Psychology,  Relationships

    Do You Need to Be More Assertive In Your Relationship?

    Many clients come to therapy because they are struggling with issues in their relationship. None of us are taught how to be in an intimate partnership with another person; our main and sometimes only example is our parents’ relationships, and whatever they chose to model for us becomes imprinted on our minds and hearts, serving as the blueprint for our future relationships. Unfortunately, for so many of us, communication in general – and being assertive more specifically – is a challenge. We have a hard time speaking up for ourselves, especially when it comes to asking for what we need. Why is this so? And what is the response to this issue…